I have been introspective these days. Indulge me a little if I write about life lessons and self-help thoughts. It must be age or the heat. This might actually be my stomach talking. (Baka gutom lang ito.)
I have learned not to compare myself with others. That successful person you envy has his/her own personal struggles. I learned not to wish I am someone else because I do not know that someone’s life too well to actually declare that that is the life I wanted. Instead, I pick what makes that person’s life beautiful and try to do the same thing about my own life. I believe that we write our own destiny.
I try not to indulge too much on material things. Gadgets get replaced with newer versions in a month or two. Cars depreciate. Jewelry is a bait for snatchers. I can name more. This is just me. Yeah, this is just the poor me who cannot afford those things! What a sourgrape! Ha! Anyhow, there are 3 things that can immediately change my outlook and how I feel about myself.
1. Laughter. My father had a great sense of humor. It is hard to go through the day without laughter. I am the kind of person who does not take myself seriously. I have a self-deprecating humor and I am not afraid to look silly in the name of fun. I feel a tad happier around people with a good sense of humor. I always feel that laughter enriches my life.
2. Love. When you’re 35 and single, one of the difficult question to answer is ‘Why?’ When my wit works, I spurt our creative retorts. There are times that a smile is enough reply. I recently realized one thing. I will not settle for anything less than true love. I won’t mind letting my biological clock run out. No child should be borne out of my womb just because I worry that no one will take care of me when I grow old. God will take care of me. My cousin just recently lost his 3-year-battle against the complications of a lung transplant. He and his wife were a young couple starting their lives together. The love and devotion of his wife amazed me. This made me declare that it’s true love or nothing for me. I can derive love from a lot of things. I give it out freely everyday. It is that warm hug, simple hello or that pat in the back. True love will be given to ‘the one’. Naks!
3. Learning. I love reading. I can be a nerd sometimes. When my father was alive, I discussed nerd stuff with him. My father was the analog version of Google. He seems to have an answer even to my silliest of questions. (Oh, I miss him!) I do not believe in being an expert, it will end learning. Sometimes, I wonder about the things I might learn had I pursued graduate studies. Well, it is never too late to get one.
Laughter is one of the best thing that can really make your life valuable. It can even make you younger.
This is a good reflection. I suggest to go for laughter and learning for now. Love will find you at the right time, in His time. 🙂
I believe. truly, laughter is a good plus in our life
#1 is definitely me. This is so inspiring! 🙂
agree with the 3 things…
for me what really adds value to my life is organizing and educating the masses…i am jubilant when they understood the fundamental problems of the philippine society/reasons of our poverty and feat to fight their rights
Wow! That is quite a feat. Good luck in your endeavors!
The greatest things in life are indeed free and are more valuable 🙂
I love this post, Kat! Live, Laugh and Love! 🙂
this is very inspiring post!!. I agree don’t compare yourself to other cause we don’t know how hard they’re life is behind all the success.. and of course laughter is def. number 1 for me:)
I agree with the three things especially laughter.
Agree. I especially don’t like to be around with pessimist. They cannot contribute value to your life.
I agree with your musings here. I could particularly relate to no. 2…I am even a bit older than you and still single. Absolutely right about God being the One to take care of each one of us. I get a whole lot of comments like who would take care of me when I’m old? Baka daw maiwan na ng byahe. My good friend always tells me that if you’re seeing things that way, you are just in for some disappointment because you don’t hold the life of your spouse or children…they can be taken away from you anytime and then you’re alone again.
Sadly, some women go into marriage only because of pressure and the fear of growing old alone. When you have your God, there is really no reason for such fears eh. I guess I’m through with the “Why” stage of still being single at this age. I’m happy the way I am and I realize, I have a different journey to take. 🙂
PS…if people ask you “Why?”….you answer “Why not?” hehehe
Hi, Aileen! I really get you! Cheers to singlehood!
Oo nga, why not??? I know quite a number of friends who regretted taking the plunge. Don’t rush 🙂
YES to your list…and what important to me is my kids and hubby
This is a great reflection, I have learned from it, too. May the Lord bless your heart.
Ang ganda naman nito, Kat! I love all three. And speaking of love, who says only romantic love matter, diba? There are many kinds of love naman. Some people kasi can’t live without a lovelife. They often forget about the most important kinds of love, such as love of God. You’re right, Kat. God will take care of you. 🙂
Awww…. sweet. 😀 Thanks , Maan!
Those 3 things are really good to focus on. Hope that it does make your life easier.
Agree. Laugh , love and learn! 🙂 I love all!
This is a very enlightening post! Love truly matters but love can be derived in many forms. It’s not only the romantic love that can make you full, I agree to that point with Sis Aileen! As we get older we tend to realize the more important aspects of our life and that cannot be experienced with material things alone. There’s more to celebrate life and love! Cheers to that!
The best advice talaga is not to compare ourselves with others because we’re only setting ourselves up for disappointment. Hard to not focus on material things in this material world 🙂 Effort talaga kasi we’re surrounded with advertisements etc.
Those three are definitely valuable to our lives.
I absolutely agree with you. God always has a better plan for us. So just enjoy and live each day as if its your last 🙂 May God bless you more.
Call it the 3 L’s of life. Laughter, Love, Learning. 🙂 My husband and kids more than fills my life with the first two. I need to work on the third.
thanks for sharing! i absolutely agree with all these! right, don’t compare yourself with others, we’re all different but know that we are all blessed! Just pray! God bless! 🙂
Love and laughter is what the world need!. The world is too intelligent nowadays I think. And oh, about you being single, I am quite sure the right one is on its way na!
Don’t rush. God reserved the best for you.
It nice to contemplate once is a while to assess how blessed we are 🙂
Magkasing edad pala tayo 🙂
That’s so true, those three things are very important too in marriage and other relationships. Laugh, Love and Learn. 🙂
TRue! And love.. remember always that God is love. Yan lang ang iniisip ko lagi, wala nang lalaki pa sa love ni God.
agree! thanks for sharing sis!
Uy. I get lots of Laughter. Specially last month, I realized that I have much Love. Learning is something that happens everyday. I really should be thankful. Salamat for letting me realize it 🙂